Who is Holly

Holly Holladay is a writer/speaker with a gift for speaking truth and keeping it real. While navigating more than her share of challenges and disappointments, Holly has learned the value of faith, perseverance, and intimate relationships.

Holly and her husband, Steve, are the founders of Ultimate Escape, a ministry that helps people follow God's plan for sexuality.  Holly is the mother of four children ages 28, 25, 21 and 19.  Holly enjoys writing about intimacy and relationship issues.  She speaks internationally to teens and adults about her journey and lessons she has learned along the way.

Above all, Holly is a daughter of the King of Kings who desires for others to know their true value.  Learn more about Holly's heart and her refreshing honesty at her blog, HollyHolladay.org.

Sex and the Brain

The following video clips are from Steve Holladay's presentation, Ultimate Sexual Organ: The Brain.  Discover how the brain functions (or does not function) during sexual activity.  Understanding how the process works can help one make healthy choices about sex.  What can you learn about sex from a branding iron?  Find out here!
 

 

 

 

 

 

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You Can Learn a Lot about Sex from a Pool Stick

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Other Sites to Visit

FIGHT THE NEW DRUG

Website full of information about the effects of pornography on the brain, relationships and society.  The site includes free access for teens to an online program of recovery from pornography addiction.

 

LIVING OUT

Christian site that provides accurate information about same-sex attraction and resources for people who live with these attractions.  Resources include videos, articles, reviews, testimonials and more.

 

BETHESDA WORKSHOPS

One of the top programs providing clinical treatment of sexual addiction from a Christian perspective. Provides separate sessions for adult males, adult females, spouses of addicts, and couples recovery.  The workshop director, Marnie Ferree, specializes in treatment of sexual addiction among females.

 

CENTER FOR RELATIONAL HEALING

A private, Christ-centered counseling service in Brentwood, TN that specializes in providing individual and group therapy experiences to promote healing from sexual addiction, codependency, unwanted same-sex attractions, and other intimacy disorders.


SOUL VIRGINS

Soul Virgins is a site dedicated to helping Christian single adults pursue God's heart about their sexuality and challenges them to be all God has called them to be.

 

SASH

Official site for The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH).  Provides information and resources specifically related to sexual addiction.

 

NCMEC

Site hosted by National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Provides resources related to internet safety and clinical research related to online sexual abuse.

Movies Worth Seeing

Books Worth Reading

Where UE has been

Since 2005, Ultimate Escape has been a voice of truth in a world of misinformation about sexuality.  Tens of thousands of teens and adults across four continents have discovered that conversation about this topic doesn't have to be awkward. In fact, most leave Ultimate Escape events feeling glad that they were there and looking forward to attending another presentation in the future!  

Check the listing below and see the wide array of places Ultimate Escape's message has been presented. Regardless of language or culture, people have enjoyed learning about sex from a chocolate bunny, and a game of checkers, and a pool stick, etc.!

 

Churches

Alpine Church of Christ
Longview, TX

Antioch Church of Christ
Antioch, TN

Bayside Church of Christ
Virginia Beach, VA

Beachside Christian Fellowship
Taylors Beach, NSW, Australia

Belle Meade United Methodist Church
Nashville, TN

Beltline Church of Christ
Decatur, AL

Bentonville Church of Christ
Bentonville, AR

Berry's Chapel Church of Christ
Franklin, TN

Brentwood Hills Church of Christ
Nashville, TN

Brooks Avenue Church of Christ
Raleigh, NC

C3 Spectrum Church
Anna Bay, NSW, Australia

Campbell Street Church of Christ
Jackson, TN

Central Church of Christ
Amarillo, TX

Central Church of Christ
Spartanburg, SC

Christ Presbyterian Church
Nashville, TN

Church of Christ at White Station
Memphis, TN

Columbus Church of Christ
Columbus, MS

Cottonwood Creek Baptist Church
Allen, TX

Covenant Life Church
Greensboro, NC

Crittenden Drive Church of Christ
Russellville, KY

Cross Pointe Church
Amarillo, TX

Deep Creek Baptist Church
Chesapeake, VA

Dickson First Assembly
Dickson, TN

Duncanville Church of Christ
Duncanville, TX

East Cobb Church of Christ
Marietta, GA

East End Church of Christ
East Hampton, NY

Fargo Church of Christ
Fargo, ND

First Baptist Church
Allen, TX

First Baptist Church
Dickson, TN

Friendly Avenue Church of Christ
Greensboro, NC

Friendship World Outreach
Waverly, TN

Garden Ridge Church of Christ
Lewisville, TX

Glendale Road Church of Christ
Murray, KY

GlenElm Church of Christ
Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada

Golf Course Road Church of Christ
Midland, TX

GracePointe Church
Montgomery, AL

Grace Chapel Church of Christ
Cumming, GA

Greenville Oaks Church of Christ (2008, 2009, 2011, 2013, 2016)
Allen, TX

Harpeth Hills Church of Christ
Brentwood, TN

Hendersonville Church of Christ
Hendersonville, TN

Holland Park Church
Greenville, SC

High Pointe Church of Christ
McKinney, TX

Hunter Christian Church
Highfields, NSW, Australia

Huntsville Church of Christ
Huntsville, TX

Kannapolis Church of Christ
Kannapolis, NC

Kingwood Church of Christ
Kingwood, TX

Lexington Church of Christ
Lexington, SC

Life Church
Newcastle, NSW, Australia

Maryville Church of Christ
Maryville, TN

McPherson Church of Christ
McPherson, KS

Memorial Road Church of Christ
Edmond, OK

Mityana Pentecostal Church
Mityana, Uganda

Mountainside Church of Christ
Albuquerque, NM

Nichols Street Church of Christ
Bay City, TX

North Boulevard Church of Christ
Murfreesboro, TN

Oakcrest Church of Christ
Oklahoma City, OK

Otter Creek Church (2007, 2014)
Brentwood, TN

Palmetto Church of Christ
Columbia, SC

Park Avenue Church of Christ (2010, 2016)
Denison, TX

Pegram Church of Christ
Pegram, TN

Prestoncrest Church of Christ
Dallas, TX

Providence Road Church of Christ
Charlotte, NC

Providence Road Church
Chesapeake, VA

Richardson East Church of Christ
Richardson, TX

Sherrod Avenue Church of Christ
Florence, AL

Singing Oaks Church of Christ
Denton, TX

Smyrna Church of Christ
Smyrna, TN

Southside Church of Christ
Fort Worth, TX

South Fork Church of Christ
Winston-Salem, NC

South MacArthur Church of Christ
Irving, TX

South Main Church of Christ
Henderson, TX

Sylvan Hills Church of Christ
Sherwood, AR

The People's Church
Franklin, TN

Troy Church of Christ
Troy, TN

Tuggerah Lakes Church
Tumbi Umbi, NSW, Australia

University Church of Christ
Canyon, TX

University Church of Christ
Murray, KY

Westside Baptist Church
Murray, KY

WFR Church
West Monroe, LA

WFR Church - University
Monroe, LA

Wilksboro Church of Christ
Wilksboro, NC

Word of Faith Church
Mbale, Uganda

 

Schools

100% Hope
Mityana, Uganda

Abilene Christian University (2012, 2013)
Abilene, TX

Amberton University
Garland, TX

Crossnore School (2014, 2017)
Crossnore, NC

Dungog High School
Dungog, NSW, Australia

Ensworth School
Nashville, TN

Freed-Hardeman University
Henderson, TN

Friendship Christian School
Lebanon, TN

Greater Atlanta Christian School
Norcross, GA

Harding University
Searcy, AR

King's Kid School and Orphanage
Mityana, Uganda

Lipscomb University
Nashville, TN

Lucas Christian Academy
Lucas, TX

Midland Christian School
Midland, TX

Ouachita Christian School
Monroe, LA

Pepperdine University
Malibu, CA

University of the Nations
Kona, HI (2013, 2016)

 

Events/Professional Organizations

 

12-Step Seminar
Longview, TX

12-Step Seminar
Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada

Adventures in Missions
Lubbock, TX

AGAPE
Nashville, TN

Area Wide Youth Worship
Dallas, TX

Area Youth Devotional
Smyrna, TN

Area Youth Fellowship
Mattituck, NY

Bethesda Workshops
Nashville, TN

Camp Ch-Yo-Ca
West Monroe, LA

Continent Connection Conference (2009, 2011, 2013)
Atibaia, Brazil

Full Bubble
Paris, TN

Great Cities Missions
Addison, TX

IMPACT (2006, 2007, 2009)
Nashville, TN

Kadesh Leadership Camp (2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2017)
Abilene, TX

Laminin
West Monroe, LA

Life & Aid Bible School
Mityana, Uganda

Men of Valor - Dallas (2010, 2011)
Plano, TX

National Conference on Youth Ministries (2008, 2009, 2010, 2014)
Atlanta, GA   Colorado Springs, CO   St. Louis, MO   Daytona Beach, FL

Palmetto Bible Camp (2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009)
Marietta, SC

Pastor's Training Conference
Mityana, Uganda

Pepperdine University Lectures (2010, 2017)
Malibu, CA

Reaching the Wounded Student Conference
Orlando, FL

Relationship Workshop
Allen, TX

Robertson Marriage Retreat
Skagway, AK

Shannon Ethridge Ministries - B.L.A.S.T. Workshop Reunion (2011, 2012)
Tyler, TX

Soul Cafe
Newcastle, NSW, Australia

Summer Celebration - Lipscomb University Lectureship (2006, 2007, 2009)
Nashville, TN

Summit - Abilene Christian University Lectureship (2012, 2013)
Abilene, TX

The Well Coffeehouse
Brentwood, TN   Nashville, TN

Timothy Hill Children's Ranch
Riverhead, NY

Youth in Action
Louisville, KY

Youth Rally - East Colbert Church of Christ
Muscle Shoals, AL

Youth Retreat (Area Churches)
Cedar Hill, TX

Youth Street
Newcastle, NSW, Australia

Youth With a Mission - DTS
Maui, HI (2017)
Newcastle, NSW, Australia (2012)

Youth With a Mission - National Leaders Conference
Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

ZOE Worship Conference (2007, 2008, 2012, 2014)
Nashville, TN   Atlanta, GA   Brentwood, TN

 

Media

Ultimate Escape hosts an expanding library of video clips that present truth about sex from a solid clinical and Biblical foundation.  Topics covered include healthy sexuality, addiction, sexual identity, sex and the brain, sex in culture, and FAQ.  Below are a few samples.  

 

 

 

 

What is Ultimate Escape

Based in West Monroe, LA, Ultimate Escape partners with churches and schools to prepare young people for a lifetime of healthy sexuality.  It was founded by Steve and Holly Holladay in 2004. 

Ultimate Escape's presentation style is fresh, captivating and straight-forward.  Information is presented in a way that is easy to understand and fun to watch.  Steve's trademark phrase, "You can learn a lot about sex from a ______" has been a favorite of teens and adults from Uganda to Australia and Canada to Brazil.

Ultimate Escape also provides counseling services for teens, adults and families dealing with sexual issues including sexual addiction, trauma/abuse, and same-sex attractions.

Discover more about Ultimate Escape.  Truth about sex is good to know!  

Steve Holladay

Holly Holladay

The Ultimate Rottweiler

Who is Steve?

Steve HolladaySteve Holladay is a child of God with a heart for helping young people work through sexual issues. Having struggled in this area since early childhood, Steve began his recovery journey in 2002.  Two years later, God gave Steve a vision for starting a ministry to help young people overcome addictive sexual behavior, and Ultimate Escape was born.  

Steve worked as a youth minister prior to getting his M.A. in Human Services Counseling from Regent University in 2006.  From 2006 to 2009 Steve also worked as a Life Coach/Consultant for teens at the Center for Relational Healing in Brentwood, TN.  Since 2009, Steve has been living in Allen, TX where Ultimate Escape is currently based.

Steve and his wife, Holly, have been married 23 years and have four children.  Steve enjoys weightlifting and working with his Rottweilers, Baby Ruth and Legend.  Steve's claim to fame is that he may be the only individual pulled over by the Virginia Beach police for driving too slow!

Steve has presented truth about sex to teens and adults on four continents.  His creative, engaging approach makes learning about sex in any language fun and comfortable!  

The Ultimate Rottweiler

Steve Holladay and Baby RuthArtemus' Baby Ruth, CGC

Baby Ruth is Steve's 11-year-old rottweiler and co-presenter of the Ultimate Escape presentation, "Ultimate Relationship: Connecting With God."  Baby Ruth made her debut on stage with Ultimate Escape during Impact '09 at Lipscomb University in Nashville, TN.  Since that time she has encouraged the hearts of teens and adults across North America, from East Hampton, NY to Midland, TX and from Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada to Atlanta, GA.

Baby Ruth is an avid sports player!  She has scored a basket on a basketball goal (a genuine Air-Bud), loves to retrieve golf balls, will play catch with any willing partner, is a formidable opponent for tug o' war, and enjoys playing frisbee.  If there is a ball involved, Baby Ruth is anxious to play.

Baby Ruth has won "Best of Breed" and placed in group in UKC shows during her brief career as a show dog.  She has the heart of a rottweiler and lives to work.

Baby Ruth is an excellent guard dog!  Steve enjoys sharing stories about Baby Ruth in action  (ask about the car load of bad guys in Portsmouth, VA) when opportunities arise.  If you are her friend, she has your back!

Baby Ruth shares her home with Steve, Holly, and Griffin, and her replacement-in-training, "Legend."  When she is not on the road presenting with Ultimate Escape, Baby Ruth can be found guarding her home in Allen, TX.  Her favorite spot is the big red chair (her throne) followed closely by the brown leather love seat. 

Before purchasing Baby Ruth in 2003, Steve prayed that God would lead him to the perfect rottweiler puppy for the Holladay family. 

Steve Holladay with Baby RuthGod answered that prayer and blessed Steve with more than a pet.  God provided a partner for Steve to use in helping people emotionally embrace the truth that God loves them. 

Many people know that God loves everyone, but don't feel like God loves them.  God uses Baby Ruth to help people bridge the gap between the knowledge in their head and the void in their heart.  After all, you can learn a lot about God from a dog! 


 

What People are Saying About "Ultimate Relationship"

 

“Many sermons I have forgotten by lunch time, but not this one!”
Dr. Ian A. Fair, Professor Emeritus of New Testament and New Testament Theology, College of Biblical Studies, Abilene Christian University, Allen, TX

“I’ve never seen that much cross-generational fixed attention in one room. Everybody was glued and locked in to what was going on.”  Charlie Sells, Youth Minister, Greenville, SC

“I felt God's arms wrap around me this morning for the first time in a long time.”  
Justin Gravley, Henderson, TX

“Very profound...God’s love for us, separate from what we do for him, is such an essential truth that we often miss.  I hope many people get the opportunity to hear this presentation.” Debra Herrmann, Greensboro, NC

“…a big hit with our students!  Baby Ruth captured their hearts and riveted their attention to Steve’s lively, engaging presentation.  I feel confident that our students will never forget Steve’s message about God’s unconditional love for them.” 
Lucy Allen, Dean of Student Life, Lucas Christian Academy, Lucas, TX

“You do an excellent job.  Come back again and bring the dog.” 
Jerry Hill, Founder, Timothy Hill Children’s Ranch, Riverhead, NY

“Steve and Baby Ruth illustrated beautifully that our connection to God is based on our loving and mutual relationship with Him, not on any performance by us.” 
Rachel Solomon, Host of Gray Hair Talking, Kernersville, NC

“Steve Holladay’s illustration of Baby Ruth was an encouragement that taught all the participants that God is after having a patent relationship with man.”
Herman Kayima, Administrator, 100% Hope, Mityana, Uganda

About

Ultimate Escape partners with churches and schools to help people follow God's vision for sexuality.  It was founded by Steve and Holly Holladay in 2004.  Steve is the director of Ultimate Escape, speaks to teens and adults, and provides Ultimate Escape's counseling services.  Steve's background in youth ministry (20+ years) and his personal journey of recovery help him fill his roles with Ultimate Escape with passion and understanding.Ultimate Escape Presenters

Ultimate Escape's style is fresh, captivating and straight-forward.  Information is presented in a way that is fun to experience and easy to understand.  You will never look at a chocolate bunny the same again! 

Ultimate Escape also provides counseling services for individuals and families dealing sexual issues.  Steve Holladay holds a master's degree in counseling and is a sexual addiction specialist.  His relaxed, compassionate personality helps client's feel safe and comfortable as they work through difficult issues like addictive behavior, trauma/abuse, and same-sex attractions.

Discover more about Ultimate Escape by mousing over the "About" tab and using the drop-down menu.  Truth about sex is good to know!   

Steve Holladay

Holly Holladay

The Ultimate Rottweiler

 

Understanding Sexual Identity

We live in a culture filled with confusing messages about identity, and those messages often involve sexuality.  How do we determine our identity, and who decides what we are?  Explore the concept of identity and see what dynamics may be influencing yours.  Discover what you can learn about sexual identity from balls!

 

This presentation is not yet available on video.  We hope to add it in 2015.

Sex in Culture

Images and messages about sexuality are impossible to escape.  Are we aware of the beliefs we are forming?  An honest look at sex in our culture exposes illusions and reveals the truth.  Find out what you can learn about sex from a can of Diet Dr. Pepper.  

 

This Ultimate Escape presentation is not yet available on video.

Addictive Sexual Behavior

Countless individuals are trapped in a cycle of sexual behavior they don’t understand.  They want desperately to stop but feel hopeless.  Why do people keep doing it, and what is the real problem?  Experience the truth about addiction and see what drives the cycle.  Looking for freedom?  Discover how a noodle might be getting in the way.  Watch these clips from Steve Holladay's presentation, Ultimate Trap: Understanding Addictive Sexual Behavior.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Transformed

 

 

Life in a fallen world is messy.  It can feel like our world has been turned up-side-down. Disconnected, struggling, afraid...ever been there?  The good news is that God can take a mess and make something wonderful out of it!  God can do more than change our circumstances, He can transform us. 

In this presentation, Steve Holladay and his Rottweiler, Legend, illustrate the power of transformation and highlight some foundations of the process.  You will learn the core beliefs the enemy uses to create a sense of disconnection, and you will witness the effects of a winning strategy for overcoming the enemy.  Transformed PVC Pipes

Engaging, creative and inspiring.  You will be surprised what you can learn about God from a dog, and you'll enjoy every minute of it!

Contact Ultimate Escape to schedule this presentation for your church, school or other organization.

 

 

What People are Saying

“Many sermons I have forgotten by lunch time, but not this one!”
Dr. Ian A. Fair, Professor Emeritus of New Testament and New Testament Theology, College of Biblical Studies, Abilene Christian University, Allen, TX

“I’ve never seen that much cross-generational fixed attention in one room. Everybody was glued and locked in to what was going on.” 
Charlie Sells, Youth Minister, Greenville, SC

“I felt God's arms wrap around me this morning for the first time in a long time.” 
Justin Gravley, Henderson, TX

A Fun Theology of Sex

Sex is designed to provide excitement, pleasure and lasting fulfillment in the context of a safe and intimate relationship.  God wants you to have great sex!  Get the skinny from the master sex therapist, the Creator of sex.  You can learn a lot about sex from a can of Play-doh, and from scripture.  See for yourself by viewing these clips from Steve Holladay's presentation, Ultimate Sexual Experience: God's Vision for Sexuality.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Contact Ultimate Escape

UltimateESCAPE
PO Box 1047
West Monroe, LA 71294
(214) 620-1787

 

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Events

Ultimate Escape offers interactive, engaging events and presentations for teens and adults that address a variety of topics.  Discover more by mousing over the "Events" tab and using the drop-down menu.

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“You can learn a lot about sex”

 

More videos in this series will follow.

 

Upcoming Events

Why Should I Attend

Ultimate Escape Events

UltimateESCAPE partners with churches, schools and other organizations to provide workshops and seminars for teens and adults.  These interactive events provide accurate information about sexuality and are designed to help families and churches talk openly about sexual issues.  With a fresh and creative approach, Steve Holladay uses his signature phrase, "You can learn a lot about sex from a ____" to make learning comfortable, enjoyable and unforgettable!

Topics Covered: 

Sex and the Brain                 Culture and Sex                       Theology of Sex
Healthy Relationships           Addiction Sexual Behavior        Sexual Identity
Talking to Children About Sex

 

Ages:  Grade 6 -adults

 

What People are Saying: 


"I think that this retreat has changed my life.  It has opened new doors for me.  It has improved my walk with God."
male, age 14, McKinney, TX

"I like how you can find freedom.  I have done some things that I am not proud of, but through God, and forgiveness, I can be free...Thanks!"
female, age 16, Allen, TX

"The whole thing was AMAZING!... I really loved all the physical demonstrations."
female, age 15, Allen, TX

"Outstanding job this weekend.  We will be blessed for years to come.  Thank you so much for your wonderful ministry."
 Scott Thibodeaux, Youth Minister, Duncanville, TX

"I connected with everything he (Steve) was talking about.  It totally changed my views on sex and sex before/and after marriage.
male, age 14, Allen, TX

"Amazing way you made it less awkward.  THANK YOU!!"
female, age 15, Midlothian, TX

"Attending this program...allowed me to reevaluate who I am.  I believe everyone should see this program at both a younger and older age.  Thank you!"
female, age 17, Van Alstyne, TX

"...helped me understand the way God sees sexuality. Thanks!!!”
male, age 16, DeSoto, TX

“I’ve been through things in my past and I tried to run away from. You coming here this weekend makes me realize that running is not the best option. Thank you!!”
female, age 15, Cedar Hill, TX

What Teens are Saying

 

 

“You are good! You are really, really good!"     Ethan, age 16, Murfreesboro, TN
 

“Every time I hear you speak, you leave me wanting to hear more.”     Tommy, age 15, Greensboro, NC
 

"You did an amazing job!  Thanks a bunch smile  I gained a lot from this!."     Female, age 16, McPherson, KS
 

"It's a HUGE relief to know I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE!  THANK YOU SO MUCH!!"     Female, age 14, Chase, KS 
 

“I feel like you have opened a knowledge door to my life.”     Male, age 17, Brentwood, TN
 

“Thank you for coming!”     Lauren, age 13, Allen, TX
 

"There were ways that I have never looked at sex that I learned today so I want to thank you guys a lot."     Male, age 16, Nashville, TN 

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