Podcast

In a world where there is so much noise and confusion about sexuality, Ultimate Escape offers a safe place to discuss the truth. With creative insights and engaging topics, Steve and Holly Holladay, founders of Ultimate Escape, break through the taboos and hesitation. They equip parents, teens, teachers and church leaders to have meaningful dialogue with each other about sexuality; sharing truth that brings freedom.

 

 

Holly Holladay

Holly Holladay, RN, BSN, CCRN is not your ordinary writer/speaker; normal does not fit Holly’s life.  She is genuine and real, a truth-speaker with little use for pretense or superficial pleasantries.  In her roles of wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and critical care nurse, Holly has navigated more than her share of challenges and disappointments.  Through the journey she has learned the value of faith, perseverance, and intimate relationships.

Holly and her husband, Steve, are the founders of Ultimate Escape, a ministry that helps people pursue healthy sexuality.  Holly is the mother of four adult children and has two grandchildren.  Holly enjoys writing about intimacy and relationship issues, and speaks internationally to teens and adults about her journey and lessons she has learned along the way.

Holly’s interests have been as numerous as apps for smartphones!  Among them are photography, writing, traveling, dog showing, singing, playing scrabble, and catering; get the picture?  Above all, Holly is a daughter of the King of Kings who desires for others to know their true value.

Sex and the Brain

The following video clips are from Steve Holladay's presentation, Ultimate Sexual Organ: The Brain.  Discover how the brain functions (or does not function) during sexual activity.  Talk about this with your children, or consider watching the videos together.  Understanding how the brain works can help young people make healthy choices about sex.  What can you learn about sex from a branding iron?  Find out here!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Featured Video

You Can Learn a Lot about Sex from a Pool Stick

A Fun Theology of Sex

 

Sex is not bad, shameful, or dirty.  Truth is, God came up with the whole idea and intends for it to be an important part of a safe and intimate marriage.  God wants people to enjoy great sex!  

Unfortunately, churches and families have failed to present a healthy picture of sexuality.  In a culture saturated with images and messages about sex, about the only places one can go and NOT hear about sex are home and church.  And these are the two places young people should be hearing about it consistently!

In this Ultimate Escape presentation "A Fun Theology of Sex," Steve Holladay will take you on a journey through scripture that paints an overall picture of what God originally intended sex to be. (full presentation is below)

You can learn a lot about sex from a chocolate bunny, and from scripture.  God's word provides much more than a set of rules for sex.  It describes sex as an exciting, pleasurable and intimate part of the human experience.  Catch God’s vision for a lifetime of sexual fulfillment as you learn about sex from a hole in the wall!

 

Addictive Sexual Behavior

 

Addictive sexual behavior may be the single most common struggle among Christian teens.  With internet access and smart phones becoming universally available at yonger and younger ages, issues like porn and sexting are affecting almost every family.  Due to the progressive nature of addiction, the building block behaviors of fantasy, porn and masturbation often lead to more involved behaviors over a relativey short period of time.

Many Christian parents are aware of the issues, but are convinced their children would never be involved in such behaviors. In reality, more Christian teens than not are involved is these behaviors.  It is common for young people to struggle in silence, believing they are the only ones, especially if they have grown up in a family that does not talk about "such things."

Ultimate Escape was founded by Steve and Holly Holladay to present truth about sexual issues.  In the Ultimate Escape presentation, Addictive Sexual Behaviors, you can learn about the topic and some basic steps involved in the recovery journey.  (full presentation is below)

Countless individuals are trapped in a cycle of sexual behavior they don’t understand. They want desperately to stop but feel hopeless. What is the real problem? How does one escape the cycle? Lasting freedom involves much more than changing behavior, it requires transforming the mind, engaging emotions, authentic relationships and spiritual healing. Jesus said, “The truth will set you free.” Learn the truth, and practical strategies for utilizing it.  You might be surprised to see how a noodle can be getting in the way of your freedom.

 

 

 

 

Sample Schedule

Friday PM

6:00 – 6:20   Welcome & Introduction of Event
6:20 – 7:00   Session 1:  Ultimate Sexual Organ: The Brain
7:00 – 7:10   Break
7:10 – 8:10   Session 2:  Ultimate Illusion: Sex in Modern Culture
8:10 – 8:40   Break and snacks
8:40 – 9:40   Session 3:  Ultimate Sexual Experience: God’s Vision for Sexuality
9:40 – 10:00 Debrief
10:00            Head Home

 

Saturday (eat breakfast before you come)

10:00 – 10:10 am Kickoff
10:10 – 10:30  Panel Group Processing
10:30 – 11:30  Session 4:  Ultimate Relationship: Friends w/ Benefits
11:30 – 12:30 pm Lunch break
12:30 – 1:30   “Sex Talk Live” Q & A time part 1
1:30 - 1:45      Break
1:45 – 2:30    Ultimate Interviews (panel of men and women)
2:30 – 3:00    break (snacks provided)
3:00 – 4:15    Session 5:  Ultimate Trap: Understanding Addictive Sexual Behavior
4:15 – 5:15    break/games 
5:15 – 6:00    “Sex Talk Live” Q & A time part 2
6:00 – 7:00    Dinner
7:00 – 8:30    Session 6: Ultimate Reset: Starting Over
8:30 – 8:55    Processing/journaling
8:55 – 9:30    Evaluations & Remarks
9:30               Head Home

 

Topics Covered

Sex in Modern Culture

Images and messages about sexuality are impossible to escape.  Are we aware of the beliefs we are forming?  An honest look at sex in our culture exposes illusions and reveals the truth.  Find out what you can learn about sex from a can of Diet Dr. Pepper. 

 

A Fun Theology of Sex

You can learn a lot about sex from a chocolate bunny, and from scripture.  God's word provides much more than a set of rules for sex.  It describes sex as an exciting, pleasurable and fulfilling part of the human experience.  Catch God’s vision as you learn about sex from a hole in the wall.

 

Understanding Addictive Behavior

Countless individuals are trapped in a cycle of behavior they don’t understand.  They want desperately to stop but feel hopeless.  What is the real problem?  You will always remember the power of a noodle once you experience the truth about addiction and see what drives the cycle.

 

Understanding Sexual Identity

We live in a culture filled with confusing messages about identity, and those messages often involve sexuality.  How do we determine our identity, and who decides what we are?  Explore the concept of identity and see what dynamics may be influencing yours.  Discover what you can learn about sexual identity from balls!

 

Sex and the Brain

Contrary to cultural myths, the most important sexual organ is the brain.  Learn how brain structures and neurochemicals interact and make sex incredibly powerful and captivating.  Discover the connection between sex and emotional bonding.  You will understand “hotness” much better as you learn about sex from a branding iron.

Steve Holladay

Steve Holladay is an international speaker, pastoral counselor and founder of Ultimate Escape. Steve has an M.A. in Human Services Counseling from Regent University and a B.S. in Psychology and Social and Behavioral Sciences from Freed-Hardeman University.  Steve’s specialized training in sexuality was through the Institute for Sexual Wholeness in Atlanta. Steve has held certification as a Pastoral Sexual Addiction Professional (PASP) from the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).

In addition to his work with Ultimate Escape, Steve enjoys working with his rottweilers, weightlifting, and spending time with his family.  Steve and his wife, Holly, have been married for over 32 years and have four children and two grandchildren.

 

Video Resources

Websites

BETHESDA WORKSHOPS

One of the top programs providing clinical treatment of sexual addiction from a Christian perspective. Provides separate sessions for adult males, adult females, spouses of addicts, and couples recovery.  The workshop director, Marnie Ferree, specializes in treatment of sexual addiction among females.

 

CENTER FOR RELATIONAL HEALING

A private, Christ-centered counseling service in Franklin, TN that specializes in providing individual and group therapy experiences to promote healing from sexual addiction, codependency, unwanted same-sex attractions, and other intimacy disorders.

 

SASH

Official site for The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH).  Provides information and resources specifically related to sexual addiction.

 

AACC

Site for the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC). The AACC provides several resources for Christian professionals and laypersons relating to understanding sexual addiction and helping those affected by it.

 

NCMEC

Site hosted by National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Provides resources related to internet safety and clinical research related to online sexual abuse.

 

Reading

Healthy Sexuality

Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting our Children
by Joe S. McIlhaney, Jr., M.D. and Freda McKissic Bush, M.D.

Soul Virgins: Redefining Single Sexuality
by Doug Rosenau and Michael Todd Wilson

When Two Become One: Enhancing Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
by Christopher and Rachel McCluskey
 

Same-Sex Attractions

Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living in the Time Between the Times
by Mark A. Yarhouse and Lori A. Burkett

 

Sexual Addiction

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
by Dr. Mark Laaser

No Stones: Redeeming Women from Sexual Shame
by Marnie C. Ferree

 

 

 

Organizations

Ministries

Healthy Sexuality

Institute for Sexual Wholeness

Shannon Ethridge Ministries

 

Same-sex Attractions

CenterPeace

Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity

 

Sexual Addiction
 

Bethesda Workshops

Faithful and True Ministries

 

 

UE Bookstore

Professional Counseling

Understanding Sexual Identity

 

Sexual identity is a subject that can evoke a range of emotions in our current cultural climate. Whether it is trying to understand their own thoughts or feelings, or wrestling with how to respond to a friend or family member, many young people experience confusion around the topic.  

Sexual identity involves more than orientation or direction of one's attractions.  It also involves one's sense of gender and intentions for behavior.  For many people of faith, the subject is also connnected to spiritual values and religious teachings.  Understanding the big picture surrounding sexual identity can be very helpful to anyone seeking answers about the topic.

In the Ultimate Escape presentation "Understanding Sexual Identity," Steve Holladay presents an overview of sexual identity and explores some of the dynamics related to the topic.
(full presentation is below)

Our culture is filled with confusing messages about identity and sexuality. How do we determine who we are, and who decides what we are? How do followers of Jesus respond to individuals around this issue?  Explore the concepts of attractions and identity, and see what dynamics may be influencing yours. Discover what you can learn about sexual identity from balls!

 

 

 

Sex in Culture

Transformed

 

We live in a broken world.  We get wounded in relationships.  As our defenses kick-in, we can become disconnected, isolating as a means of protection.  Lonely, hurt, sad, fear - the emotions are uncomfortable and drive us to self-medicate in a desperate attempt to escape them.  Anxiety increases and life spirals downward.  We need help.  We need to be rescued.  We need to be transformed.

Thankfully, God is more than willing to lift us out of our pit of despair and place us on solid ground. Through our connection with God, He can transform our mind, change our heart and make us new! Witness the life-changing power of transformation, and experience the freedom that God's truth can bring. 

Since 2009, Steve Holladay has been helping people embrace God's love by sharing what they can learn about God from a dog.  For six years Steve's first rottweiler, Baby Ruth, served as his co-presenter in the original version of this presentation, "Connecting With God."  In 2016, Legend stepped into the co-presenter role and transformation became the focus of the presentation.  

Steve's creative style makes spiritual meat easy to digest. (see full presentation below)  Contact Ultimate Escape to schedule "Transformed: Made New By Connecting With God" for your church, school or other organization. This is one presentation your people will never forget, and they'll enjoy every minute of it! 

What People are Saying

“Many sermons I have forgotten by lunch time, but not this one!”
Dr. Ian A. Fair, Professor Emeritus of New Testament and New Testament Theology, College of Biblical Studies, Abilene Christian University, Allen, TX

“I’ve never seen that much cross-generational fixed attention in one room. Everybody was glued and locked in to what was going on.”
Charlie Sells, Youth Minister, Greenville, SC

“I felt God's arms wrap around me this morning for the first time in a long time.”
Justin Gravley, Henderson, TX

 

Download Study Guide for this presentation.

Talking to Children About Sex

 

Many Christian parents desire to protect their children from hearing anything about sex because they don't want to "contaminate" their minds or rob them of their childhood innocence. Unfortuntely, culture bombards our children with sexual content and it is impossible to protect them from every potential source.  No matter how much we try to protect them, children are going to be exposed to images and messages about sexuality.  Much of what they hear and see results in confusion and an inaccurate understanding of the issue.

A better approach is to begin educating children at a young age through consistent, age-appropriate healthy conversations.  Instead of spending years dreading having "the talk" when their children become teens, parents should lay the foundation for open dialogue about sexuality when children are young,  If parents begin talking with their children at age 3-4 about foundational issues, children will learn they can talk to their parents about the topic and it will always have been "normal" for them.

In the Ultimate Escape presentation "Talking to Children About Sex," Steve Holladay helps parents, grandparents and others who work with children understand the need for early education about the topic. (full presentation is below)  Full of practical information, Steve discusses the "why" and the "how to" develop a pattern of healthy conversation that can be comfortable for parents and children.

One of the most difficult challenges for parents is talking with their children about sex. Yet, it is one of the most important topics to address in a hyper-sexual culture, and the process should begin at an early age. Whether you are a parent, grandparent or mentor to a young person, learn how to initiate ongoing conversation and be equipped to address vital issues.  Generations long into the future will thank you for establishing a legacy of healthy sexuality in your family!

 

 

Comments

“I feel like you have opened a knowledge door to my life.”     17-year old male from Brentwood, Tennessee

 

"The most moving retreat I have ever been to.  -  Thank you, Steve, for everything."  16-year old male from Van Alstyne, Texas

 

"You did an amazing job!  Thanks a bunch   I gained a lot from this!"     16-year old female from McPherson, Kansas

 

"This is the best weekend of mylife. I could not thank you enough. God, through you, has given me the strength to overcome my greatest fears and my biggest struggles. Thank you again."  18-year old male from McKinney, Texas

 

"I liked the whole weekend. I've gone to this twice now, and each time I've learned something different."  16-year old female from Allen, Texas

 

"I love that you incorporated things that most people will not think about, like Play-doh, to demonstrate things. That really struck a chord with me. I really want to share it with peole that could not make it."  15-year old female from Prosper, Texas

 

“You are good! You are really, really good!"     16-year old male from Murfreesboro, Tennessee

 

 

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Presentations

A Fun Theology of Sex - Part One

You can learn a lot about sex from a chocolate bunny, and from scripture.  God's word provides much more than a set of rules for sex.  It describes sex as an exciting, pleasurable, and intimate part of the human experience.  Catch God’s vision for a lifetime of fulfillment as you learn about sex from a hole in the wall.

 

A Fun Theology of Sex – Part Two
You’ve learned a lot about sex from a chocolate bunny.  Enjoy another journey through God's word and expand your understanding of His vision for sexuality.  Sex was made to be enjoyable, enticing, and worthy of protection!  You’ll have a blast learning God’s truth about sex from a duck call, and a Tootsie Pop.

 

Current Issues in Sexuality
Practically every family is dealing with sexual issues. Some people are trapped in a cycle of sexual behavior they can’t stop. The effects of early sexual encounters cause many to live in shame and secrecy. A growing number of families are affected by confusion around sexual identity. Survey the landscape of modern sexuality and see what you can learn about sex from a few cans of soda.
 

Foundations for Healthy Relationships
Our culture encourages superficial, disposable and self-serving relationships, but your heart is wired for much more! If you are in a relationship of any kind, or desire to be, then this session is for you! Discover the foundations of healthy relationships and how to develop them.

 

Healing Across Five Dimensions
Lasting freedom involves much more than changing behavior, it requires transforming the mind, engaging emotions, authentic relationships and spiritual healing. Jesus said, “The truth will set you free.” Learn the truth, and practical strategies for utilizing it.  You might be surprised at what you can learn about freedom from a rope.

 

Sex and the Brain
Explore how God designed our brain for sexuality. See how brain structures and neurochemicals interact to make sex incredibly powerful and captivating. Discover the connection between sex and emotional bonding.  You will understand “hotness” much better once you see what you can learn about sex from a branding iron.

Sex in Culture
Images and messages about sexuality are impossible to escape.  But just what are we learning about sex from our environment, and do we even realize the beliefs we are forming?  This presentation honestly explores how culture views sex, and reveals the raw consequences.  Find out what you can learn about sex from a can of Diet Dr. Pepper. 

 

Understanding Addictive Behavior 
Countless individuals are trapped in a cycle of sexual behavior they don’t understand.  They want desperately to stop and feel hopeless.  Why do people keep doing it, and what is the real problem?  Experience the truth about addiction and see what drives the cycle.  Looking for freedom?  Discover how a noodle might be getting in the way.

 

Understanding Hurtful Sexual Experiences
Be it a one-time occurrence or a series of encounters that occurred for years, hurtful sexual experiences can be devastating. Typically, victims feel isolated and don’t know what to do. Family and friends often are unaware of the situation. And time does not heal wounds. Become aware of the myriad of dynamics in the wake of trauma. Learn to recognize signs that someone has been hurt, and how to respond with grace and compassion.

 

Understanding Sexual Identity
We live in a culture filled with confusing messages about identity, and those messages often involve sexuality. What determines who we are, and who determines what we are? Explore the concepts of sexual identity and gender identity. Discuss frequent questions and ways to navigate sensitive situations as a disciple of Jesus. Learn about dynamics that may be affecting you or someone you love. You might be surprised by what you can learn about sexual identity from balls!

 

Talking to Children about Sex
One of the most difficult challenges for parents is talking with their children about sex. If parents don’t begin the conversations at an early age, children will be easily influenced by a culture of misinformation. Whether you are a parent-to-be, parent, grandparent, or mentor to a young person, learn how to initiate ongoing conversations and be equipped to address vital issues.  Future generations will thank you for establishing a legacy of healthy sexuality in your family!

 

Transformed Through Connection
In this fallen world, we all get wounded in relationships. Pain creates fertile ground for the enemy to plant lies. Explore how these lies can separate us from God and others, making us vulnerable to Satan’s strongholds. Discover how connection is vital to transformation. You might be surprised what you can learn about God from a dog!

Beliefs

Ultimate Escape is guided by the following fundamental beliefs as we pursue our mission.

• God, as creator of the universe, is the author of sexuality.  As such, He is the authority regarding appropriate and fulfilling sexual expression, and best knows how sexuality should be experienced and managed.
   
• God's word, the Bible, describes sexual behavior in the context of marriage between a husband and wife as good, exciting, pleasurable, and part of God's design for the human experience.
   
• God's word also places boundaries around sexual behavior.  Erotic sexual behavior between individuals outside the context of marriage is not consistent with God's purpose for sexual expression as described in the Bible.
   
• All people are created in the image of God and should be deeply valued.  Regardless of one's sexual behavior, beliefs, values or history, all people are worthy of respect and should be treated with the love, compassion and kindness modeled by Jesus. 
   
• God is the source of hope, healing and redemption.  God can heal the pain of sexual trauma and abuse, bring freedom to those enslaved by addiction, bring order from the chaos of sexual confusion and brokenness, and restore what has been destroyed by destructive behavior.  God's grace and forgiveness are available to all and needed by all.

Mission

Ultimate Escape helps individuals and families address sexuality in a healthy way. Ultimate Escape pursues this mission through the following avenues:

• creative, engaging presentations about a variety of topics related to sexuality  
• pastoral counseling / consulting for people struggling with sexual issues
• resources that educate and equip parents, church leaders, and young people

 

About

 

Founded by Steve and Holly Holladay in 2004, Ultimate Escape is a board-directed not-for-profit corporation that helps people address sexuality in a healthy way.  Based in Dickson, TN, Ultimate Escape equips individuals, families, churches, and other organizations to address sexuality with intentionality and sensitivity. Ultimate Escape presents truth about a variety of topics related to sexuality, relationships, healing, and recovery. Additionally, Ultimate Escape offers pastoral counseling for teens and adults looking for help with issues including sexual trauma/abuse, sexual identity confusion, sexual addiction, or relationship and intimacy concerns.  

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Board Members

President
Gerry Smith, MSA
Retired
Richardson, TX

Vice President
Robert Ables
Global Minister, One Kingdom
West Monroe, LA

Secretary
Jan Moore
National Center for Homeless Education at SERVE (retired)
Greensboro, NC

Treasurer
Carolyn Huskins
Proposals Engineer, NC Department of Transportation (retired)
Greensboro, NC

Medical Advisor
Gil Ezell, M.D.
Urologist (retired)
Nashville, TN

Clinical Advisor
Marnie Ferree, LMFT, CSAT
Founder, Bethesda Workshops (retired)
Nashville, TN

David Bruce
President, Alliance Recruiting Resources
McKinney, TX

Video

Introducing Ultimate Escape - Discover more about this ministry by watching this brief overview.
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Speakers

Steve and Holly Holladay have presented truth about sexuality and relationships in Ultimate Escape's creative, engaging style around the world.  From Uganda to Australia and Canada to Brazil, Steve and Holly make learning about sex in any language fun and comfortable.

For more information about Steve or  Holly,  view their individual speakers pages.

Where We’ve Been

Ultimate Escape has presented in nine foreign countries on four continents. Additionally, Ultimate Escape has presented in over half of the United States.

 

Churches

Alpine Church of Christ
Longview, TX

Antioch Church of Christ
Antioch, TN

Bayside Church of Christ
Virginia Beach, VA

Beachside Christian Fellowship
Taylors Beach, NSW, Australia

Belle Meade United Methodist Church
Nashville, TN

Beltline Church of Christ (2008, 2016)
Decatur, AL

Bentonville Church of Christ
Bentonville, AR

Berry's Chapel Church of Christ
Franklin, TN

Brentwood Hills Church of Christ
Nashville, TN

Brooks Avenue Church of Christ (2010, 2015)
Raleigh, NC

Burns Church of Christ
Burns, TN

C3 Spectrum Church
Anna Bay, NSW, Australia

Calvary Chapel Gold Beach
Gold Beach, OR

Calvary Heritage Church
Brookings, OR

Campbell Street Church of Christ (2009, 2015)
Jackson, TN

Central Church of Christ
Amarillo, TX

Central Church of Christ
Spartanburg, SC

Christ Presbyterian Church
Nashville, TN

Church of Christ at White Station
Memphis, TN

Columbus Church of Christ
Columbus, MS

Cottonwood Creek Baptist Church
Allen, TX

Covenant Life Church
Greensboro, NC

Crittenden Drive Church of Christ
Russellville, KY

Cross Pointe Church
Amarillo, TX

Deep Creek Baptist Church
Chesapeake, VA

Dickson First Assembly
Dickson, TN

Duncanville Church of Christ
Duncanville, TX

East Cobb Church of Christ
Marietta, GA

East End Church of Christ
East Hampton, NY

Fargo Church of Christ
Fargo, ND

First Baptist Church
Allen, TX

First Baptist Church
Dickson, TN

First Baptist Community Church
Brookings, OR

Friendly Avenue Church of Christ
Greensboro, NC

Friendship World Outreach
Waverly, TN

Garden Ridge Church of Christ
Lewisville, TX

Glendale Road Church of Christ
Murray, KY

GlenElm Church of Christ
Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada

Golf Course Road Church of Christ
Midland, TX

GracePointe Church
Montgomery, AL

Grace Chapel Church of Christ
Cumming, GA

Greenville Oaks Church of Christ (2008, 2009, 2011, 2013, 2016)
Allen, TX

Harpeth Hills Church of Christ
Brentwood, TN

Hendersonville Church of Christ
Hendersonville, TN

Holland Park Church
Greenville, SC

High Pointe Church of Christ
McKinney, TX

Hunter Christian Church
Highfields, NSW, Australia

Huntsville Church of Christ
Huntsville, TX

Kannapolis Church of Christ
Kannapolis, NC

Kingwood Church of Christ
Kingwood, TX

Lexington Church of Christ
Lexington, SC

Life Church
Newcastle, NSW, Australia

Maryville Church of Christ
Maryville, TN

McPherson Church of Christ
McPherson, KS

Memorial Road Church of Christ
Edmond, OK

Mityana Pentecostal Church
Mityana, Uganda

Mountainside Church of Christ
Albuquerque, NM

Nichols Street Church of Christ
Bay City, TX

North Boulevard Church of Christ
Murfreesboro, TN

Oakcrest Church of Christ
Oklahoma City, OK

Otter Creek Church (2007, 2014)
Brentwood, TN

Palmetto Church of Christ
Columbia, SC

Park Avenue Church of Christ (2010, 2016)
Denison, TX

Pegram Church of Christ
Pegram, TN

Prestoncrest Church of Christ
Dallas, TX

Providence Road Church of Christ
Charlotte, NC

Providence Road Church
Chesapeake, VA

Richardson East Church of Christ
Richardson, TX

Shawnee Trail Church of Christ
Frisco, TX

Sherrod Avenue Church of Christ
Florence, AL

Singing Oaks Church of Christ
Denton, TX

Smyrna Church of Christ
Smyrna, TN

Southside Church of Christ
Fort Worth, TX

South Fork Church of Christ
Winston-Salem, NC

South MacArthur Church of Christ
Irving, TX

South Main Church of Christ
Henderson, TX

Sylvan Hills Church of Christ
Sherwood, AR

The People's Church
Franklin, TN

Troy Church of Christ
Troy, TN

Tuggerah Lakes Church
Tumbi Umbi, NSW, Australia

University Church of Christ
Canyon, TX

University Church of Christ
Murray, KY

Westside Baptist Church
Murray, KY

Woodland Oaks Church of Christ
The Woodlands, TX

WFR Church
West Monroe, LA

WFR Church - University
Monroe, LA

Wilksboro Church of Christ
Wilksboro, NC

Word of Faith Church
Mbale, Uganda

Schools

100% Hope
Mityana, Uganda

Abilene Christian University
Abilene, TX

Amberton University
Garland, TX

Crossnore School (2014, 2017)
Crossnore, NC

Dungog High School
Dungog, NSW, Australia

Ensworth School
Nashville, TN

Freed-Hardeman University
Henderson, TN

Friendship Christian School
Lebanon, TN

Greater Atlanta Christian School
Norcross, GA

Harding University
Searcy, AR

King's Kid School and Orphanage
Mityana, Uganda

Lipscomb University
Nashville, TN

Lucas Christian Academy
Lucas, TX

Midland Christian School
Midland, TX

Ouachita Christian School
Monroe, LA

Pepperdine University
Malibu, CA

University of the Nations
Kona, HI (2013, 2016)

Events/Professional Organizations

12-Step Seminar
Longview, TX

12-Step Seminar
Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada

Adventures in Missions
Lubbock, TX

AGAPE
Nashville, TN

Area Wide Youth Worship
Dallas, TX

Area Youth Devotional
Smyrna, TN

Area Youth Fellowship
Mattituck, NY

Bethesda Workshops
Nashville, TN

Camp Ch-Yo-Ca
West Monroe, LA

Continent Connection Conference (2009, 2011, 2013, 2015, 2017, 2019)
Atibaia, Brazil

Full Bubble
Paris, TN

Great Cities Missions
Addison, TX

IMPACT (2006, 2007, 2009)
Nashville, TN

Kadesh Leadership Camp (2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2017)
Abilene, TX

Laminin
West Monroe, LA

Life & Aid Bible School
Mityana, Uganda

Men of Valor - Dallas (2010, 2011)
Plano, TX

National Conference on Youth Ministries (2008, 2009, 2010, 2014)
Atlanta, GA   Colorado Springs, CO   St. Louis, MO   Daytona Beach, FL

Palmetto Bible Camp (2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009)
Marietta, SC

Pastor's Training Conference
Mityana, Uganda

Pepperdine University Lectures (2010, 2017)
Malibu, CA

Reaching the Wounded Student Conference
Orlando, FL

Relationship Workshop
Allen, TX

Robertson Marriage Retreat
Skagway, AK

Shannon Ethridge Ministries - B.L.A.S.T. Workshop Reunion (2011, 2012)
Tyler, TX

Soul Cafe
Newcastle, NSW, Australia

Summer Celebration - Lipscomb University Lectureship (2006, 2007, 2009)
Nashville, TN

Summit - Abilene Christian University Lectureship (2012, 2013)
Abilene, TX

The Well Coffeehouse
Brentwood, TN   Nashville, TN

Timothy Hill Children's Ranch
Riverhead, NY

Youth in Action
Louisville, KY

Youth Rally - East Colbert Church of Christ
Muscle Shoals, AL

Youth Retreat (Area Churches)
Cedar Hill, TX

Youth Street
Newcastle, NSW, Australia

Youth With a Mission - DTS
Maui, HI (2017)
Newcastle, NSW, Australia (2012)

Youth With a Mission - National Leaders Conference
Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

ZOE Worship Conference (2007, 2008, 2012, 2014)
Nashville, TN   Atlanta, GA   Brentwood, TN

Counseling

Based in Dickson, TN, Ultimate Escape provides Pastoral counseling services for teens, adults and families dealing with issues around sexuality, relationships and intimacy.  Steve Holladay holds a master's degree in counseling and has been certified as a Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist.  Steve's training in sex therapy was at the Institute for Sexual Wholeness in Atlanta, GA. 

Steve's relaxed, compassionate personality helps client's feel safe and comfortable as they work through difficult issues like addictive sexual behaviors, trauma/abuse, and sexual/gender identity.  Steve's specialty is working with teens and young adults ages 12-30, but he also works with couples and adults of all ages.

Steve approaches therapy from a pastoral counseling role, combining clinical theory and Biblical truth to help clients move toward their goals.  Steve operates from a cognative behavioral therapy model, exploring with clients the dynamics of thoughts, feelings and behaviors as shaped by core beliefs about self, others and God.  Additionally, becoming a more healthy relationship partner (spouse, parent, child, etc.) is a focus of the healing process. 

In addition to traditional weekly sessions, Steve offers intensives for clients traveling long distances or those desiring to progress at a faster pace.  Half-day, full-day, and two-day formats can be tailored to meet specific needs.

Steve's experience includes working as a Life Coach/Consultant at the Center for Relational Healing in Brentwood, TN from 2006-2009.  He also consulted as a sexual addiction specialist for the Center for Professional Excellence in Nashville, TN. 

Call Ultimate Escape at the number above to schedule a counseling session.

 

History

Ultimate Escape was founded in 2004 by Steve and Holly Holladay.  It initially operated as a ministry overseen by the Friendly Avenue Church in Greensboro, NC where Steve had served for 6 years as a youth minister.

As Steve was pursuing his master's degree in counsleing at Regent University, Ultimate Escape was organized as a not-for-profit corporation in Virginia Beach, VA in March of 2005. 

In the fall of 2006, Ultimate Escape relocated to Nashville, TN where Steve Holladay began working with the Center for Relational Healing, providing life coaching services for adolescents dealing with sexual issues. 

In August of 2009, Ultimate Escape formed a partnership with the Greenville Oaks Church in Allen, TX and moved its operations to the Dallas metroplex.  At the end of 2016, Ultimate Escape relocated to north central Louisiana and began operating from an office provided by the WFR Church in West Monroe. In 2022, Ultimate Escape began a transition back to the Nashville area. That transition was completed in 2023. Ultimate Escape is currently based in Dickson, TN and continues to operate as a board-directed, not-for-profit corporation recognized by the IRS as 501(c)(3) public charity. 

Steve Holladay provides Ultimate Escape's pastoral counseling services in Dickson, TN.  Steve and Holly Holladay speak internationally at churches, schools and other organizations.  For information about the Ultimate Escape board, see the Board Members page.

Media

Ultimate Escape hosts an expanding library of videos that present truth about sex from a solid clinical and Biblical foundation.  Topics covered include theology of sex, addictive sexual behaviors, sexual identity, and more. Mouse over the "Media" tab for the drop-down menu of topics.

 

 

 

Services

Ultimate Escape provides the following services:

 

 

Pastoral Counseling

Church seminars and presentations

Parent education

School assemblies

Staff training

Video resources

 

Contact Ultimate Escape to find out how we can design programs and services to meet your needs.

Upcoming Events

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Contact Us

UltimateESCAPE
PO Box 1275
Dickson, TN 37056

(214) 620-1787

 

Resources

Ultimate Escape offers information and links to books, videos, and additional websites which are useful resources for healthy sexuality, sexual identity, sexual addictions, and recovery from sexual trauma and abuse.